John J. Gross, a man who lived a life brimming with faith, family, farming, music, learning, and patriotism, passed away on Friday morning, January 10th, 2025, reaching the remarkable age of 100. He is now reunited with his beloved wife, Margaret Gross, in heaven, surely dancing a polka. John’s life was a testament to dedication and passion, leaving a legacy cherished by many.
Born on November 7, 1924, to John M. and Magdalena (Vetter) Gross, John was the second of thirteen children. His early years were spent on the family farm near Napoleon, North Dakota, deeply rooted in the community of St. Anthony Catholic Church. Growing up in a large family instilled in him the values of hard work and togetherness. He attended country school until the 8th grade, balancing his education with the demands of farm life. Beyond his family farm, young John also extended a helping hand to neighboring farmers, showcasing his strong work ethic from an early age.
In 1944, John Gross answered the call to serve his nation, joining the army during World War II. He embarked on a journey that took him to Hawaii and the Philippines, experiences that broadened his horizons and shaped his understanding of the world. Returning home in the fall of 1946, John carried with him not only the memories of his service but also a deep appreciation for peace and home.
The year 1947 marked a new chapter in John Gross’s life as he married Margaret Schaffer on February 3rd. Their early married life began on the Schaffer farm, supporting Margaret’s widowed mother. For over six years, they rented a farm north of Napoleon, diligently building their life together. Finally, in 1955, they found their permanent roots, purchasing a farm south of Tappen. Here, John and Margaret nurtured their family, raising five children amidst the rhythms of farm life. Their farm became the heart of their family, a place of hard work, love, and countless memories.
John Gross was deeply involved in his community and faith. He was an active member of the Catholic Church in Tappen, contributing to the spiritual life of the community. His involvement extended to the Knights of Columbus, and he played a vital role in maintaining the strength of their township. A proud veteran, John was also a dedicated member of the American Legion and found camaraderie and connection within the Germans from Russia Society, celebrating his heritage. His passion for music led him to share his knowledge of German Folk songs, teaching several students through the Dakota Heritage Foundation, ensuring cultural traditions were passed on to new generations.
After selling their farm and moving to Napoleon in 1989, John embraced new avenues to pursue his passions. He became even more engaged in music, the American Legion, and the Germans from Russia Society. His natural sociability flourished through the Silver Hair Legislature, advocating for the needs of seniors. John had a genuine love for people, cherishing every conversation and connection he made. Travel became a significant part of John and Margaret’s life during this time. They explored Europe, Japan, and numerous destinations across the United States, always eager to meet new people and experience different cultures. Their love for polka music remained constant, and they were regulars at polka parties, enjoying music and dance throughout their lives.
John Gross is lovingly remembered by his daughters Rosalie (John) Long of Gackle, ND, and Bonita Hughes (Anthony) of Aurora, CO; his son Rodney (Virginia) Gross of Jamestown, ND; his ten grandchildren; and seventeen great-grandchildren. He is also survived by his sister, Ann Dammel, and six brothers: Brother Placid, Valentine, Ben, Pius, Isadore, and Leo, along with numerous nieces and nephews.
He was predeceased by his wife Margaret, his parents, three brothers, two sisters, his daughter Maggie and son-in-law Raymond Johnson, and his son John G. Gross. While his absence is deeply felt, there is comfort in knowing John is at peace, watching over his family from above.
Mass of Christian Burial for John Gross will be held on Friday, January 17, 2025, at 10:30 AM at St. Philip Neri Catholic Church in Napoleon. Visitation will take place on Thursday, January 16, 2025, from 6:00 – 7:00 PM, with a prayer service at 7:00 PM at the same church. Burial will be in the St. Philip Neri Cemetery in the spring. A livestream of John’s funeral service will be available on the St. Philip Neri Napoleon YouTube and Facebook Page, allowing those near and far to join in remembrance of John Gross and celebrate his remarkable life.
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